Seething I would like to think more about is the difference in parenting styles that, like most couples, Wife and I have.
Sometimes I am concerned that the fact that we allow different things and are harsh about different things will confuse the kids and make them unsure about the "rules."
On the other hand, life is mixed messages. Police officers give warnings. Taxes have loopholes and exceptions. Different teachers expect different criteria for an "A" paper. Different managers have varying on the job expectations.
Kids adapt and learn. They know that one parent is more strict about certain things but allows others. They learn the patterns.