tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3643615507070473617.comments2024-02-29T16:08:49.804-08:00Downtown DadUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger285125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3643615507070473617.post-77640370995843706802024-02-29T12:17:01.861-08:002024-02-29T12:17:01.861-08:00Dang that’s crazy dadDang that’s crazy dadAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3643615507070473617.post-6534587712996897282021-11-16T11:40:44.342-08:002021-11-16T11:40:44.342-08:00I feel this...I feel this...Chikadeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00001277554488438325noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3643615507070473617.post-57314211466621328322016-03-16T19:01:30.899-07:002016-03-16T19:01:30.899-07:00"Power concedes nothing without a demand. It ..."Power concedes nothing without a demand. It never did and it never will."-<a href="http://www.quoteschart.com/Frederick-Douglass-quotes" rel="nofollow">Frederick Douglass quotes</a>. I like this quote very much. Thanks a lot for doing like this job.Frederick Douglasshttp://www.quoteschart.com/Frederick-Douglass-quotesnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3643615507070473617.post-19480721316828527862015-11-25T14:25:56.849-08:002015-11-25T14:25:56.849-08:00actually what im saying is that our PERCEPTION of ...actually what im saying is that our PERCEPTION of safety is based on what we see, not the reality. Our sense of security (not the actuality) is threatened by hearing of robberies and home invasions a thousand miles away. <br />The media has been known to manage an event visually by cropping the edges of the scene via tight shots, or focusing on one or two individuals rather than the entire event itself. <br /><br />And these days we are bombarded by visuals. Years ago we got grainy black and white newsreel type depictions of war, of crime scenes after the fact, of burglars being apprehended a day later. Now we get to see a man in Iowa being chased by police, or someone in Florida being killed, up close and personal. all Im saying is, we are few this stuff continually, endlessly, on full color news. Little cameras taking huge pictures. There is no more distance between us and disaster.<br /><br />You're right about perspective. But these days there is none. Reporters are filming events as they happen and we SEE them as they happen. There's no gap, no time to understand that these things are happening maybe two thousand miles away. Now becomes more important and immediate than Where. <br /><br />And not everyone understands that. That's the scary part. A man dies badly on camera in Ohio, a woman in Maine sits up all night with a gun on the table. It happens. mittenshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04878611591683283429noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3643615507070473617.post-27063233910004929592015-11-24T12:51:58.763-08:002015-11-24T12:51:58.763-08:00If I'm reading you correctly, you are saying t...If I'm reading you correctly, you are saying that safety is based on personal perception and that images posted at the speed of light do not necessarily paint the true picture of an event.<br /><br />Perception is tricky. You can't tell someone that they're safe when they don't feel safe. Just like you can't tell someone they aren't poor when they think they are, rather than comparing them to impoverished people in other parts of the world. They feel how they feel (regardless of worldview.)<br /><br />Images and media stories are tricky, as well. We want to know what's going on in the world and we "all" haev the ability to post our pictures instantaneously for the world to see. Yet a picture is two dimensional whereas events are four dimensional. Not only is there more to a scene than what a picture can show, but there is also the passing of time - before and after an event - that truly gives us full perspective. Just as the saying goes, "hindsight is 20/20," we can only see an event for what it was because we can see what led up to it, what occurred, and what the effects were. Chicago Dadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13870431636640274470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3643615507070473617.post-57455721309884580552015-11-24T12:31:45.344-08:002015-11-24T12:31:45.344-08:00It isnt that the world is safer or less safe, it&...It isnt that the world is safer or less safe, it's that we get to be up close and personal with every inch of it, as it happens. Many events are manicured to make them look worse than they are, close ups of angry mobs that turn out to be hundreds, not thousands, and the rest of the city has no idea about it. Tight focus on a child screaming in what appears to be agony as she's driven away from her foster home. What they didnt show was that she calmed down almost immediately after the media frenzy settled down.<br /><br />We see Paris and forget about Auschwitz. We see instant movies of robberies a thousand miles from us, and lock the windows. We see murders on the other coast and bring our kids inside. <br /> <br />It's hard to keep perspective when the entire world owns smart phones and cell phones...mittenshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04878611591683283429noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3643615507070473617.post-22288809225090489762015-11-03T18:33:30.498-08:002015-11-03T18:33:30.498-08:00Thanks, Alli. There is definitely more to do, yet,...Thanks, Alli. There is definitely more to do, yet, there is often not a definitive point-of-view. Things like safety and education seem to be things that society is coming closer to thinking of as a right for all people, though some regions disagree. Then there are things like being a helicopter parent versus being a free range parent. Guess what happens if you let your kids go trick-or-treating without being all over them? They might not say please and thank you or even take all the damn candy!Chicago Dadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13870431636640274470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3643615507070473617.post-42215636488959757502015-11-03T18:19:29.910-08:002015-11-03T18:19:29.910-08:00Where is that "like" button when you nee...Where is that "like" button when you need it?? I'm with you and it's a fascinating argument. There is SO much information available that I think we are either made to be more responsible or we suffer the consequences of not being such. We as parents have been going in this direction for many years and - as you say - in what I think of as generally a more positive direction. Of course things have happened and continue to happen. There are changes that still need to be made, some far more urgently than others. That said, it is up to us to keep teaching right from wrong and security and safety and common sense and love for your neighbor regardless of religion, color, sexual preference or paint color chosen.Allihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17671164238790119484noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3643615507070473617.post-41714294341826895522015-05-07T08:28:45.162-07:002015-05-07T08:28:45.162-07:00All parents will empathize with this. Choosing wha...All parents will empathize with this. Choosing what we need to do vs what we want is always the challenge. I found that wakening our older son gently and giving him the time he needs this week has made us both happier. Even if he hasn't finished breakfast! We also brush teeth and do hair before breakfast even if he gets less food. But he still has a morning snack at school ! )rgarianohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17658766782281863635noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3643615507070473617.post-25221217022217452762014-09-25T17:34:22.554-07:002014-09-25T17:34:22.554-07:00I second that cheer. I can't count how many ti...I second that cheer. I can't count how many times I've lost my ring down a drain pipe. I'm glad you got yours back though, it's an awful feeling to loose your wedding ring. <a href="http://www.pennyplumbing.com/services/" rel="nofollow">http://www.pennyplumbing.com/services/</a>Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15755071193136417239noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3643615507070473617.post-21185025531423722242014-07-14T16:02:33.068-07:002014-07-14T16:02:33.068-07:00How to properly pay a backhanded compliment: Your...How to properly pay a backhanded compliment: Your kitchen always is messy because you're always making good stuff, says your 32 year old long-lost friend. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3643615507070473617.post-8134788371698310842014-02-12T19:31:24.806-08:002014-02-12T19:31:24.806-08:00Right? So funny.Right? So funny.Chicago Dadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13870431636640274470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3643615507070473617.post-46959964528348565972014-02-12T19:30:36.835-08:002014-02-12T19:30:36.835-08:00I know that that day will come and it will be abru...I know that that day will come and it will be abrupt, rather than gradual. Perhaps I'll remember the number of nights that I did sing which will overwhelm the number of nights that I withheld the privilege. The reality is that withholding a lullaby is not going to change her behavior.Chicago Dadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13870431636640274470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3643615507070473617.post-87339442255898605622014-02-12T10:17:31.612-08:002014-02-12T10:17:31.612-08:00Yes, one day Bunny will ask you not to sing to her...Yes, one day Bunny will ask you not to sing to her any more. Ever. She is growing up, she loves your attention and the special singing time. If she asks you to sing that dang irritating "What Does the Fox Say?"...sing it. You will have many other things to lose your mind about, trust me.Chikadeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00001277554488438325noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3643615507070473617.post-16523193301653287182014-02-11T10:24:50.331-08:002014-02-11T10:24:50.331-08:00Oh no, the irony is hilarious.Oh no, the irony is hilarious.Chikadeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00001277554488438325noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3643615507070473617.post-4632868157659745822013-11-07T07:49:46.848-08:002013-11-07T07:49:46.848-08:00I will give that a try - actually saying the part ...I will give that a try - actually saying the part about not having a tantrum. Like most things, I have to remember that there are no magic bullets - the everything takes time.<br /><br />Unfortunately, the part about not having playdates anymore would be a load of crap. Many times, they're out of necessity - for an appointment or something like that.<br /><br />Just keep casting that line and hope that a fish catches one of these days. Sometimes they leap into the boat, sometimes all you catch is shit.Chicago Dadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13870431636640274470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3643615507070473617.post-12213220696408027282013-11-06T20:33:49.756-08:002013-11-06T20:33:49.756-08:00I have found that reminding my little girl about m...I have found that reminding my little girl about my expectations before we start a playdate--no tantrums when it's time to leave; when Mommy says it's time to go, it's time to go, and you can be sad, but you can't throw a fit about it--makes a huge difference. Then when the meltdown is beginning, I can remind her that we already talked about it. And then, afterwards, we talk about how if she cannot behave properly when it's time for playdates to end, she isn't old enough to have playdates. <br /><br />That goes along with the expectation setting that you mentioned--and I think I probably started doing that while modeling your consistent (and constant) reminders about your expectations with your kids. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3643615507070473617.post-56607423761805869262013-10-21T08:20:44.073-07:002013-10-21T08:20:44.073-07:00See, I got to where I started having phantom phone...See, I got to where I started having phantom phone vibrations in my pocket constantly (which seems like it would be a better thing than it actually is) and it drove me up the wall. So I permanently switched to the ringer, although I silence it a lot.Kullervohttp://byzantium.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3643615507070473617.post-71295344418321412852013-10-21T08:18:51.899-07:002013-10-21T08:18:51.899-07:00O is also pretty good at hanging out quietly.O is also pretty good at hanging out quietly.Kullervohttp://byzantium.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3643615507070473617.post-79428602887151357422013-10-07T06:42:35.092-07:002013-10-07T06:42:35.092-07:00I now wish I remembered what I saw that prompted t...I now wish I remembered what I saw that prompted that revelation.Chicago Dadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13870431636640274470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3643615507070473617.post-67640233754086207542013-10-06T21:00:35.460-07:002013-10-06T21:00:35.460-07:00You told THEM!You told THEM!Chikadeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00001277554488438325noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3643615507070473617.post-24273645423696655822013-07-16T12:37:12.453-07:002013-07-16T12:37:12.453-07:00read this again. A whole new perspective!read this again. A whole new perspective!Chicago Dadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13870431636640274470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3643615507070473617.post-58322824684043664772013-06-25T15:22:06.280-07:002013-06-25T15:22:06.280-07:00What?!! It's a sale! You know the saying, &quo...What?!! It's a sale! You know the saying, "Every penny..." etc., etc.Chikadeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00001277554488438325noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3643615507070473617.post-67661551307983013262013-06-25T13:42:57.722-07:002013-06-25T13:42:57.722-07:00Marc, First of all we all trey in our best ways an...Marc, First of all we all trey in our best ways and every child is different. From the old man that I am...I remember when my oldest would hold her breath when she had temper tantrums...we reminded her to breath...and created cool down timeouts for her to catch her breath and relax. Our youngest was a fighter and she and I yelled and she kicked and shouted. One day I thought it might be fun, yes fun to show her what she was doing...and got down beside her and kicked and shouted with her rather than at her...she looked at me strangely and stopped. The next time she did her kick and shout thing and I did the same she started making fun of me. I think she realized I was teasing her and her behavior changed. It took a long time and she and I still sometimes communicate by yelling 25 years later, but I did realize that sometimes being quiet as an adult is more powerful than yelling. Try it - a soft calm voice while change the timbre of the conversation. Now its my turn to watch and I mean watch not tell my children as they go through the trials and tribulations of raising children. It is also our shared experience to help nurture good things by simply saying "remember when" and realizing that we do the best we can but none us us- children, adults and parents alike are not always right and not perfect. Finally I didn't realize that it was genetic for you to have problems opening tight marker caps and getting a stuffed animal to remain seated upright at a tea party...but has anyone in your family started climbing refrigerators...I head that was hereditary.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3643615507070473617.post-50095497838177725512013-06-17T10:13:23.766-07:002013-06-17T10:13:23.766-07:00Cheese is another good food if you can't brush...Cheese is another good food if you can't brush your teeth--the calcium is good for your teeth. Best thing to eat at the end of a meal if you can't brush for awhile too. Katyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00713430316033915886noreply@blogger.com